trying to hunt a hubby down to sign a papper ok you eill be legally divorced me marry again NO but would love to have a friend that don't demand nothing from me...

I am 47 and never married.  I decided a long time ago that I would rather be happily single then miserably married.  My parents had an unhappy marriage until recently.  My sister also has had two unhappy marriages and is currently divorced.  I am now intentionally single.  I love my life as a single.  I am active in both my church and of course with work.  I am not dating anyone and have no desire to do so. 

Hi sueel you must be one of the new comers so hi- not all marriages are bad but the choice is up to you and how you like to play your out to be in the future-my usband well lets put it nicely as possible he took off on me left me in debpt for years and he was busy chasin women have a drink and song this is not a marriage or abuse of any kind...lol

Im over the hurt part its now in the past me Im not down on any type of marriage not all are bad some even in my generation have been marryed for 30 years which is a shock for me I made it to 12 years and down the road he went I never looked back or have the past dictate your future like I said its up to you what you want or have a life what you want just don't let the past upset you and you have a better life for it then...

Hay good luck.

cindy

Way ta go mow this is Cool...lol

cindy

 I was married, divorced after years, then have been in several "serious" relationships since then. But every time marriage came up, I balked.

I would like a special friend, but not marriage again.I have found I am happiest with a lot of space around me.

More than a special friend, I would like a close community around me or a family, which I do not have. My dear friends are very important to me.

After a rough childhood with a control freak mother and a sometimes abusive father, I am really unable to trust.  I never once heard I love you the whole time growing up and don't remember my first hug until I was 22.  I just remember being insulted, told I was ugly, mouth washed out with soap, yelled at, called names, hit and sometimes worse.  I was overweight which really caused my parents much embarrassment.  My sister was not treated this harshly. 

 I was ignored by the opposite *** in high school and college.  At least, no one acceptable showed me any interest.  They wanted help with their homework or sell me some pills.  I went through my 20's ignored even after losing a large amount of weight.  Most men won't even make eye contact with me.  I have had nasty comments made within earshot in the ladies locker room too. A friend betrayed me to a relative who was a psychopath.  I almost got involved.  Thank goodness I realized the situation and didn't go down that road.  The next one was just gungho to marry anyone.  If someone wants you to meet his parent's on the second date, run!  He also had never paid a bill in his entire life, just enough to keep the lights on and a roof over his head.  He really didn't see anything wrong with this lifestyle either.  I got out of there! 

Almost every single man I have dated has had an "agenda or expectations".  Even when I say friends only, they still try for more.   A few don't even ask me about themselves and want me to read their favorites and ignore my tastes altogether.  The friend who manipulated me doesn't call any more and when I call, she doesn't even ask me about myself.  I can mention a very serious health problem and she doesn't even bring it up again.  I'm finished their too.  Her parent's are really too nice to me.  It makes me wonder about their motives because that family member does seem to have a lot of pull with his family.  My other friends have left and I do hear from them infrequently.  With one, I was the bank.  I don't really miss that one.  I really have one friend who I consider "okay". 

I am competant taking care of myself despite a recent disability.  I do get a little temporary help from my mother.  I have the company of some loving pets.  They were always my friends and comfort growing up.  I do get involved with some organizations to stay involved in the community and maybe meet some okay new people.  I still run into the occasional man who won't even reciprocate when I ask him how he's doing.  Most of the people are friendly though. 

I'm just going to be content being me. 

eeewww ouch christine I had to reRead your e-mail I know how that goes being told one thing then next wammo the gross tasting soap ugg g.

What I am trying to say Im glad you added being content of being you Im sstill trying to be me but i think I will make it...

Just keep saying that to yourself yup then you have it made, don;t let anyone walk over you and have a good week keep it up... :)

  My last relationship taught made me appreciate the freedom I truly have. I was in a hurry at one time in my life to get married. 

  One thing I refuse to do and Iguess this makes me old fashioned, but I reufse to have a member of the opposite *** just to pal around with. I think it's wrong for me. I don't want to put a person through what I call wasted emotions. I did this once and will not ever do it again. I've developed more boundaries in my life concerning the opposite *** and do not regret that.

 If anyone wants to read a good book, read Quest For Love by Elizabeth Elliot. There's a chapter called "They Didn't Call It Dating".

 

 

I've been single since my divorce in 1994 - and one of my best friends is a member of the opposite gender.  He helped me get through my divorce, and was always there when I needed someone to talk to or hang out with - but that's all there's ever been (and yes, he's straight, and single).  I don't know what I'd do without him - even now that he's moved halfway across the country to help his mother with his father's illness.