gabbiecat:I would of agreed with you a couple of years ago, but my Daughter was left penniless when her husband died 2 yrs ago and left her with 2 children under 4 .
No money a whopping 250 in the bank , no credit, no job she was a stay at home mom, he was only 21 and so was she. People get into situations where they have to use companies that someone with no credit can get a loan, that still does not give them the right to rip them off. Someone one young like that does not understand interest rates etc. My daughter was lucky she had her parents to help her out until she got on her feet. So many do not!!!
Things like that do happen - when I was in my early 20s I dated a young woman left in a similar situation. She was 20 when her husband was killed in a motorcycle accident and left her with a 6-month-old boy. She had family to fall back on and lived with her parents, as did my older sister, divorced with a 2-year-old who also moved back in with my mother. Her ex-husband was 22 and going on 5, if you get my drift. He still hasn't grown up.
I realize that not everyone is so fortunate as to have family to fall back on. That's where social services comes in to help, but not take over someone's life or make decisions for them. One 30-year-old woman I met on a case at work told me she wanted "someone who could control her life".
Sorry honey, only you can do that.
It's about personal responsibility, accountability, and the maturity to understand the ramifications of what one is doing. And when I was 20 I did know that 12% interest was then the going rate for a car loan, that 24% was grossly overpriced, and that renting furniture was a fool's game (unless for a party or other short-term use) and that using credit cards was digging a hole that would be very difficult to get out of.
When I was 17 my father (very much against my mother's wishes) co-signed a loan for me to buy a $300 motorcycle, which I made all the payments on, in full and on time for a year, with money from an after-school job. And I did add up all the payments and figured the true cost of the loan.
So if I could do that at age 17, I have a hard time understanding why much older people, with more life experiences than I had then, have such a hard time doing basic household budgeting. It's subtracting expenses for the basics - food, clothing, shelter - from income. What's left over is discretionary spending. If there are more expenses than income there are only two ways out - increase income or reduce spending.
Why, oh why, is this so hard for so many people?