OH! I want to come to YOUR Thanksgiving, mtviolet!! You must live up north if you're having moose? I've never made actual mincemeat, though I had deer mincemeat once and liked it.
Down here in central Ohio, I share the meal prep w/my SIL as usual. This year we'll eat at my house, so in addition to the usual house cleaning I also have to polish the family silver (passed down on my DH/SIL's side so not optional). Last Christmas I bought the special fabric for making anti-tarnish pouches for silver, and in addition to making my SIL pouches for her serving pieces for Christmas I also made some more pouches/rolls for storing our serving pieces, so I'm hoping when I unwrap them this year there will be less polishing to do!
I try to dry all the bread for the stuffing (we prefer the really hearty breads to the cubes sold for stuffing in the stores) in the week before Thanksgiving, though I usually have stuffing cubes in the pantry from bread that was going stale that I cubed and dried earlier in the year, too. My local grocery has a "spend $600 in October/November and get a free frozen turkey" promotion every year, and I'll pick up our free turkey on Saturday before Thanksgiving and let it thaw in a cooler in the garage. (If we get sudden above-50s weather I can throw blankets over the cooler, but I do not have room in my fridge or freezer for a big turkey. For TD leftovers we depend on "the BIG refrigerater" i.e. the garage, too, which is pretty reliable here in November.) Relative to spending that $600 in two months, my family of four easily does that, but if we're short I stock up on the things that are on sale, like canned pumpkin, chicken stock, evaporated milk, to use over the winter. (Pumpkin sausage soup is VERY popular w/my family, and I use the canned pumkin in curry dishes as well as quick breads.)
I also try to think ahead about how to bring focus during the gathering to the purpose of the meal: thanks-giving. I like to do just a little bit more than the starting grace. A friend of ours does a reading before their meal, with a prompt to be thinking of during the meal and a response invited between the meal and the dessert. For instance, he once read from one of the Puritan's journals, and the prompt was, "Think of a time when you struggled or suffered, but with the help of friends came out alright." (He was thinking of friends as "the hands of God" as alluded to in the reading, but did not want to limit people's responses.) I don't usually do a reading, but just pose a question, like, "Who from your past do you wish you could thank today, for gifts you did not recognize at the time?" During the response time, people take turns sharing, if they like, no pressure; I find that being the first to respond helps others feel comfortable, and that letting others randomly pipe up (instead of going around the table) makes it easier for some to choose not to share.