Dad always worked and mom went back to work when my younger sister started school. Six years after that, my brother came along and she stayed home again, providing daycare for other kids. That lasted until my father was seriously injured and was off for 18 months. Mom went back to work and kept working until she finally quit to help care for 2 elderly family members.
When dad got paid we all went to the store as a family, so of course we overheard comments about what they could spend. We did know that if they were really needing to watch funds, it was homemade potato soup (still one of my favorites).
My parents had very different views on money so it is a good thing that mom took care of the finances! Dad was from a hard working, but wealthy background,where money was not an issue. Mom, on the otherhand, was from a single parent farm family.
My mom's view point was that she was "tight" because she wanted to make sure she had money for the things that were really important. And she did.
Except for the time when dad was hurt, money was never an issue. We had a second house at the Lake of the Ozarks, money for me a car in high school, opportunities to visit Europe, go to college, etc.
We were expected to buy our clothes if we wanted above what she thought was necessary when we started high school and provide our own spending money above $5 per week. (Dad slipped me extra) In other words, work for what we wanted instead of waiting until someone hands it to you.
Dad was a different story. He would bave bought us anything we wanted if he had control of all the money. I used to have a little game I liked to call Take Dad Shopping. The rules were simple, pick out an outfit, regardless of the price, then tell Dad about an upcoming event and that you would like to have a new shirt to wear. After he set the time we would go.
Now this next part is really important. I would try on everything else in the store except the outfit (getting just a shirt was never an option) I really wanted. Timing was key. I would wait until I could see he was getting irritated and bored, then try on what I really wanted.
By then he is telling me, "Just get something!",
"Oh but Daddy, it's sorta' expensive",
"I don't care! Just get the d---n thing and lets GO!"
Worked every time!
Hmmm? Wonder if that explains some of the money problems I had in the past?
I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand. ~Susan B. Anthony