I know I haven't been the most attentive on DS lately but something major has happened with dh's job I didn't mean to worry anyone but this is a lot to deal with.
Two weeks ago a student filed a campus police report saying that someone took money out of his wallett and gave a description that matched not just dh but several people on campus.
Dh grew up in a small northen Alabama town during the Civil Rights Movement where several of the cops were related in one form or another or were thought to be corrupt if the cops said someone did this then you didn't argue with them. As a result dh is deathly afraid of cops particularly uniformed cops and will say/do anything to get away from them.
Last week he was questioned by the campus cops who started out by saying "We can do this the easy way or the hard way" when dh was growing up that meant do as we say or your head will get cracked open. So when they interogated him starting out with that he just agreed with their alligations to get away from them. He paid back the money that he is alleged to have stolen and is currently on suspension pending the outcome of a termination hearing. When he paid the cash he didn't get a reciept and at our (mine as well as his) the sent the only documentation they had which was a report. The report stated several things that should have cleared dh and we spent last week getting proof that he was diagnosed with bipolar post hiring, that he is following his medical treatment, that bipolar disorder is protected under the Americans With Disablitiy Act, and the proof that he needed to show that he was innocent.
Yesterday he had the hearing he presented the information to prove his innocence. After the meeting he was told they'd look in to a few things and get back to him in a day or two. This morning he got a call saying that there is a diffrent police report which goes against the facts he submitted into evidance last week and he's still suspended waiting to hear what the final say is.
I spent several days last week not eating or sleeping and have lost 5 lbs just from the stress of this situation. This morning I went to a displaced homemakers program and will see what if anything I can do about getting the job skills I need to be able to take care of this family should one of two things happen. I've warned dh in the past that if he looses this job the marriage will end because he's gone through spells where he couldn't hold down a job taking lower and lower paying ones and I'm not putting the kids through that stress any more. Now with facts that are conviently coming up after he's proven his innocence showing him as guilty I'm not sure if I'll divorce him or not.
One of the advantages of this situation (other than the weight loss) is that dh is realizing how much he loves this job and just doesn't want to lose it. In the past if something like this were to have happened he'd just walk away from the job and let it be now he's willing to fight to keep his job and clear his name. This is the first job he's considered worth fighting for.
