goldenblaise:I had this problem also then I took my guys shopping with me. After seeing the price they agreed to trying differnt store brands until they found one they like.
That doesn't work for me. DH goes shopping with me all the time. His reply to my making my own laundry detergent: "we can afford to buy laundry detergent". We do have a bottle of unscented laundry detergent in the house. But that's because he won't be caught dead using the homemade stuff, even for the few loads of laundry he does do (and he admits it).
I have found that Spray N Wash stain stick is the most effective stain remover for me. It works great on most every kind of stain, including greasy stains. Maybe something like this would work with the napkins, if the concept can be frugally converted using more natural ingredients. Also, buying dark cloth napkins might better disguise the stains, if they don't fade too much.
Congratulations on giving up smoking, GoldenBlaise!!
Jill