Update:
As of tonight, 2 pair of black/white socks are done for the 3 year old grandson, plus a pair of black boots. 3 pair of pink/white socks are done for the 5 yr old granddaughter, plus her mother is thinking of what else she needs, maybe some mittens. 9 year old grandson is getting a jeans quilt with a blue metal camping mug, and 10 year old granddaughter is getting a handmade gluten-free cookbook with a blue metal camping mug. The camping mugs will probably be filled with the mint leaf candies ( which are gluten-free.) I have 2 log racks for their dad (SIL) and a handmade gluten-free cookbook for their mother, with a nice holiday top.
DS wants a gift card to Lowe's, but will get cash folded into a cute little shirt instead, in some Twix bars, which he loves.
Middle DD needs cash more than anything else as she is traveling to residency interviews, so she will also get a folded little shirt.
Youngest DD is getting a pair of bookmarks that are her initials, as well as significant assistance on her tuition due in December
So DS calls, & wants to "simplify Christmas" by everyone being assigned names in a rotation. (DS & his father generally shop for Christmas the week before.) I tell him I am not interested, but that is between him & his siblings, if they agree; & an hour later, I receive an email with everyone assigned, including us as "Parents", in a rotation. I sent an email back, clarifying that I am not interested, as in "I will continue to give a gift to each of my children regardless of what they give each other", & shortly after, another email came with a different rotation, eliminating the "parents".
I know this works in some families, but when DH & I were young marrieds with 4 children and not much money, we ALWAYS ended up with his sister with 7 children, which would not have been a problem except there was an "appropriate" level of present expected. It created a hardship, & since my birthday is in January, that was where the $$ came from. Same experience in my mothers & father's extended families.
I prefer to give the gift I choose to give, without there being a "rotation", and a dollar amount expected to spend. Some years are flush & some are lean, & the Christmas budget reflects that, but a few tears were shed tonight over this while I completed knitting little black/white sock #4.