Right now I am enjoying the freedom of being single. I also figure, I have enough issues, I don't need to add a 'significant-other' to it. I was on a free dating site but took my profile off completely. Going to focus on me and getting me better before I would be ready to date again. I am still friends with my ex-bf and we encourage each other... he's looking but knows now that I am not. 

I've been married for 21 years but was once married to a "Spendarina" who thought the solution to every "I wanna...." was to charge it or take out a loan. After the divorce I had every intention of remaining a hard-core bachelor. I bought my own house, had a job I liked, friends and some hobbies to keep me entertained. The relationship with DW started out very slowly, and I only agreed to meet her because a niece insisted that I should and finally to quiet her down I did. I also worked rotating shift work at the time and she worked an 8 to 4 type job so often weeks went by without seeing her.

I took a full year to think about whether to marry her and decided that life would be better with her in it than not. So far I'm not disappointed.