Good grief!  For a long time, it seems that people in our country, don't have to 'live with the consequences of their actions".  If you were foolish with your money/food stamps/whatever then you go hungry the rest of the month.  Some people learn better from discomfort rather than making it easy/painfree for them.  Maybe it will stick in their memory for the next time that they get in that situation. If you don't take care of your kids with food/clothing/shelter then someone from the State, will step in and move the children elsewhere.

You might want to point her in the direction of Angel Food Ministries at www.angelfoodministries.com.  They accept food stamps in payment, but there are specific ordering and pick up dates.  They are in 23 states and most definitely in NC.  The food is great!

Can I  "shop" in your freezer?"

Keep it simple: "No."

I think you said the right thing. begging off you and then phoning in a takeout order!  sounds like she is looking for a free ride.   If you feel like helping, offer to sit down with her and show her how to budget and come up with a menu plan and then take her shopping when her food stamps come in.  sounds like she is good at getting free stuff.

 Say no.  She needs a free handout from YOU but she hosted a party and then ordered takeout?  And "shop in your freezer"? WTHECK?  Bold, eh? 

You have to take care of your needs.  She's an adult.  She'll figure it out.  

Tell her Sorry but I only have enough for MY family! 

Perhaps you need too work out a better plan on how too stretch your food stamps dollars?  Have you checked out some frugal sites online  like  Hillbillyhousewife  she really shows you how you can stretch your food dollars!

Jill  

p.s. you don't need too explain anything further & you shouldn't cause it will give her a chance to lay a guilt trip on you or con you out of something!

ummmmm, NO.  No further explanation needed.  I would have been miffed if she wanted to shop in my freezer and I found out that she used all her food stamps, hosted a party that was not potluck and then called in a take out order where I worked at.  If she had money for a party and take out, she had money to buy groceries to feed her family and herself.  She needs a better plan for feeding her family.

Shellia

You should call her today and ask her for a handout...see what she has to say.  "oh hi!  I was calling to see if I could shop in YOUR freezer, seeing as how you ordered take out the the other day...I figured you must have gotton your stamps and stocked up..." something to that effect...

My grandmother, bless her heart, is the queen of the guilt trip.  She would have said somethign like, "well, why don't you eat leftovers from the cookout?" or "why don't you call a friend that came to your cookout and see if they can host your family for a dinner?"

any my alltime fav...quoting grandma again "theres a lesson in there somewhere."

I agree with SunshineTreva -

sunshinetreva:

"I'm sorry.  I don't have anything to spare right now."

Repeat as necessary.