Thanks everyone, I have a lot to think about now.
Firstly, taking a loan out on the equity of the other property is something to think about, but I *think* due to the nature of the property it might be hard to do, and also I'm not sure if that would qualify for no closing costs & a low % rate. But it is something I hadn't considered, thank you.
My husband and I are committed to not using credit anymore. All of our cards have been sliced, with the exception of one that's on ice in the freezer, to be used for car rentals for future vacations. I was surprised last time we went that the rental people didn't want to accept a debit card! So we need to keep that one for that purpose only. We've not charged anything for the last six months, so I do think we can live like this without a problem.
Someone asked what might happen if we, for some reason, were unable to make the home equity loan payment. That's where we would call on our safety nets, namely our parents. Both sets are quite well off and would have no problem assisting us with payments. In fact, my dad wants to give us a "loan" to pay off the debts that we have now, but I hate accepting money from him. We made this mess and we aren't going to learn from it unless we dig our way out of it. Of course, it's VERY nice knowing that our parents are there if we absolutely need them, but it makes me sick to see other family members mooch off of them and I can't do that unless it's absolutely needed. Pride is such an expensive thing!
And of course, worst comes to absolute worst I could get a job nights. Right now I just stay home and wrangle the little wild ones. Which is work enough most days LOL.
We looked for cheaper credit cards, have a stack of applications here for them even. The only problem I have with these is that if you miss or are late on one payment that the rates shoot right up. Now I've never missed a payment, but sadly I have been late once or twice on a payment. Not very, but a few days. I am a disgustingly absent-minded person. My husband is even worse! We try, I set up a system where my computer flashes warnings at me in the morning and this helps (two months remembering everything - wooohooo!) but I'm terrified of being late and having those rates go up - nevermind the $40 late fees - those HURT!
And we wouldn't be getting a HELOC, those are evil! That's like having a credit card because you can always draw it out once you pay it off. Yuck! IF we do this, it would be a regular old home equity loan/second mortgage.
Thanks so much all of you for everything you've given me to think about. Some things I wouldn't have thought up myself too! And I appreciate how welcoming everyone is! I'm glad I found this forum, I've been getting the dollarstretcher emails for years and never knew this was here.