Hi Frugal Forum,
I'm hoping to get your input on my situation. I have this best friend, "Annie". She's awesome - totally the best friend I've had in YEARS. We met about 7 months ago and our friendship has developed into such a beautiful thing. I truely don't know what I would do without her. In fact, we're such good friends, that we've decided to take this huge 6mo trip to Australia in Sept and live together there.
Let me get to the point, however. We never talk about money directly, but I know she makes at least $80-90,000/ year. I'm struggling off of $26,000/year in San Francisco! We both need to save about $10,000 to get over to Australia.
I don't know if I should directly bring up a money talk with her or not???
When we go out, everything really adds up....food, taxi, drinks.....I can afford to blow $60 bucks once in a while...not every weekend. I find myself struggling to keep up with her. See, I would take the bus, eat my homemade meal, and pre-drink at home before going out to save money. However, since she has made big money for years, she is used to the finer things in life, and I feel funny asking her to be frugal with me.
I know she chips in more than her share A LOT. I really appreciate that - but I hate feeling like a charity case. At the same time, I know that if I was the rich one, I would totally pay for her, too. In fact, I would probably pay for her more if the tables were turned.
Part of the reason I'm broke is that I'm back in school and only working part-time - trying to figure out my career choice. So, I wonder if she sees me as lazy or what.
She has such nice things - I wonder if she feels bad for me. Although she is not a snob AT ALL.
So, now she wants to go to LA this weekend. She said she "was going whether I come or not" so she would pay for the rental car. I would LOVE to go, but I know things wills add up....gas, dinners, clubs.....If I wasn't saving for Australia, this would be easier....but only a little bit. I don't know what to do. For now, I have some money.....but....I hate to cheap!
I guess I don't really know what I am asking of you all - I just need to not feel so crappy about this!