This is the same this as me
"hating" skinny people! I want to be thin like they are, but I don't
want to eat right & exercise to be that way. It's more fun to sit
on the couch eating cupcakes than to exercise, just like it's more fun
to go shopping and spend money than it is to stay at home and clean
Sure, but that doesn't mean you would go around
saying to them, "Boy, it must be nice not to have to worry about what
you eat." For myself, I've made the decision that I'd rather carry
around a few extra pounds than go hungry--so I live with the
consequences, and I don't snipe at people who choose otherwise. Similarly, a person who chooses to live a non-frugal lifestyle and doesn't complain about the "good fortune" of others may be a little imprudent, but isn't being rude.
quite true that you don't owe any sort of explanation to people who
make snide remarks like this. All you really need to do is deflect them, and there are several ways to try:
1. Turn it into a joke: "Oh yes, that's us, Mr. and Mrs. Astor, ha ha. Excuse me, I need to go get my chauffeur to drive me to the spa."
2. Turn the envy on its head by emphasizing your past struggles: "Yes, it certainly is a relief to have those lean years behind us now."
3. Take the Miss Manners approach and make it clear, in an impeccably polite way, that it's none of their business: "Thank you, it's so kind of you to take an interest."