You know, I've read that the whole grocery bag thing is a bit of a 'red herring' - in the real scheme of environmental problems, it is TINY. and it annoys me that they are being *** over it. (someone mentioned sales clerks not knowing what to do with BYO bags... I found that years ago when I tried using cloth, they just had no idea! So I gave up) A lot of the things they make a noise about are creating the illusion of doing something green when the real problems: overconsumption and waste, use of petrochemicals - aren't dealt with because the multinational power-brokers don't want people to stop consuming.
Re plastic baggies - we still use a few; its hard for the kids as they aren't allowed back in the class to return their playlunch boxes, and they don't want to carry them around the playground. But for sandwiches I bought some Tupperware sandwich keepers that I've been using for years, easy to open and easy to wash. I did buy a fancy compartment lunchbox but I had to wrap the sandwiches and they were ridiculous to wash.
That's the big problem with reusables: you -have- to wash stuff, and sometimes it does get too much. I think there's no way I could have coped using 100% cloth nappies, and forget washing cloth wipes! With such a hectic life and so little time at home, I don't see how you can get around using bags for lunches. It might be something to consider for later though (when the dishwasher is working, or when you have more time.)
A woman I spoke to the other day uses newspapers to line her garbage bin - a couple of layers stops the rubbish from sticking to the sides, and she just hoses it out often. I don't buy newspapers but it might be useful for some people.