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The Danger of False Money Tapes

As we've discussed before, our Money Tapes are thoughts that go through our mind telling us what we believe to be true about money. Typically they've been with us a long, long time. We've accepted them as part of our reality.

But what happens if one of our Money Tapes is false, or isn't true all of the time? What happens then?

Often the results are a train wreck that you're not even aware happened.

Let's consider an example. Suppose that you were raised to believe that your value was determined by what you produced by your hard work. So naturally, you've worked hard all of your life. Often putting in extra hours and even skipping family events so that you could produce more.

When a special project keeps you from your son's birthday party your Money Tape plays: "You're most valuable to your family when you're working hard." Believing it to be true, you plow into the special project and plan on apologizing to your son when you get home.

But the Money Tape is only partially true. Working hard is important. But so is being present at your son's birthday party. In fact, it's very likely that the party is more important.

Since you believe your Money Tape you think you did the right thing. And, you're surprised when your son isn't that interested in your apology. It's only years later that you realize how much he wanted you to be there. In short, a train wreck that you weren't aware of.

The moral of the story? Listen for and question your Money Tapes. Make sure that they're true for the specific situation you're facing. Otherwise you may think that you're doing great, even though your train is hurtling off the tracks!

What's your experience with Money Tapes? How have they affected your life. We'd love to hear your story.

Comments

 

Anne Cross said:

One of mine is that "I'll always get more money in the future." I tend to be future-oriented in all aspects of my life (I'm really working hard on staying in the present, but breaking a 40-year long habit isn't going to happen overnight). I'm always thinking about what's going to happen, rather than what is happening. So sometimes I justify expenditures based on future earnings rather than present income. Being aware of this has helped me do it less. I'm trying to change the tape!

February 5, 2010 6:59 PM
 

mplsmom said:

I, too, tend to think far ahead, but my problem is I'm always putting money aside for future things and feeling guilty about current expenditures especially on myself.  As a child, my family was what we now call 'working poor' and we didn't have money on hand for a lot of things.  Everything felt like a financial burden.  My cautiousness spilled into a problem in my marriage which was solved by having an 'allowance' for my husband and an item in the budget for occasional meals out.  However, I still am uncomfortable about spending money on myself.  This is something I'd really like to solve.  Having money set aside for emergencies and reoccuring expenses is a wonderful thing, but it's not the only thing.

February 10, 2010 10:24 AM

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