Trying to change our behavior is often a challenge. Especially if it's a long-standing habit that's been repeated thousands and thousands of times. But, just because it's a challenge, doesn't mean that it can't be done. In fact, when you stop to think about it, even behaviors that you've had for years can be changed in a month or so. That's pretty remarkable.
How many people do you know who always seem to find the negative? Whether it's the dessert at a restraurant, the guest list at a party or the present they received from Aunt Mary, they'll always find something to be unhappy about. No matter how good everything else was. I admit that I find it tiring to be around people like that. It's almost as if the negativity has completely drained their life force and is now going after mine!
One good thing does come out of hanging around them. It's a great reminder for me to check my own attitude. Have I become negative? Do I always look what's wrong? Are my words often critical? If so, it's time to change my perspective. Because that negativity will quickly begin to sap my energy and color everything I see. Noticing what's happening gives me an opportunity to get back on track. And, hopefully I'll be smart enough to take that opportunity!
ps: I know that it's harder to see the good if you've just lost your job or there is sickness in your family. There's no denying that's true. But, it's equally true that those are the exact times that it is even more important to find some positive things to think about. Being able to see the positive is great medicine. And medicine is most needed when times are truly tough not when the going is easy.
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